Behavioral Expectations for Guests
You are representing American youth in a foreign land. In many ways, the country and family you will live with for a short time will think of all Americans as they think of you. The impression you leave with your families is crucial to the successful tours now and in the future. Therefore, it is important to always use proper etiquette and manners.
You should try to relate to your Host Family as you do your own family: confide in them, ask them to help when you need it, let them know how you feel, take an interest in their lives and culture, and show your appreciation for their kindness and hospitality.
Here are some helpful reminders:
- Before we leave, learn to say "please" (bitte) and "thank-you" (danke) in German. Use these words frequently.
- Say "Good Morning" (Guten Morgen) and "Good Night" (Gute Nacht) to your family. Greet your family each time you see them with a warm smile.
- Keep your room clean. Don't leave your stuff everywhere!
- Engage in conversation. Break the ice! Share things about yourself. Ask questions.
- Ask FIRST before you use anything. Never borrow things without asking.
- Don't assume. Don't take anything for granted.
- Don't monopolize the bathroom. Get in, and get out!
- Try to wait for the host family to offer their phone, computer or other electronics to you. When they do offer, feel free to accept the invitation, but keep your time to a minimum - 10 minutes is a good rule of thumb. If you use the phone, offer to reimburse the family for any charges.
- Never take out a cell phone, or other personal electronics, while at the dinner table. It is very impolite to look away from the conversation (even if you don't understand everything you are hearing!) while participating in a family meal.
- Relax and enjoy your opportunity to make some new friends!
Gifts for your Host Families
As we mentioned at the meeting last February, you should plan to present your host family with a small gift to show your appreciation for their hospitality. There is no rule about exactly when to present the gift to the family, but typically it is presented near the end of the stay. You will want to take something that is small, not breakable, and rather inexpensive (it's the thought that counts) so that it can easily fit into your luggage. Students often selet items that represent the Chicago area, the communities that we live in, or their families. Some students even make their gifts. Here are a few suggestions if you are looking for inspiration:
- Framed photograph of you and your family back home with a dated note of appreciation back.
- Small memento from our State of Illinois, or the Chicago area.
- Christmas ornaments or framed needlepoint decorations.
